Beyond Checklists: Finding True Partnership in Marriage

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What People Think They Need to Look for in Marriage

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  • Single Status vs. Divorced
  • Race
  • Height
  • Physical Appearance
  • Age Range
  • Income

Believe it or not, the chances of finding someone who meets all these requirements are a mere 0.046%, according to data from the 2020 Current Population Survey (CPS) in the USA. By narrowing down our dating pool based on these criteria, we may be setting ourselves up for failure, neglecting the essential traits necessary for maintaining healthy and long-lasting relationships.

So What Should We Be Looking For?

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Advice from the World’s No. 1 Matchmaker, Paul Bruson:

  • Emotional Fitness: Emotional stability and intelligence trump any amount of money. Being emotionally fit means exhibiting low neuroticism, maintaining consistency through life’s ups and downs, which speaks volumes about emotional fitness in a relationship.
  • Courageous Vision: Seek a partner who sets you on a path toward something greater. Both partners should possess the drive and assertiveness to propel personal growth, motivating each other to strive for improvement daily.
  • Resilient Resourcefulness: In tough times, resilience is key. A resourceful partner possesses the strength to rebound, gathering the broken pieces and rebuilding themselves. They are adept at conflict resolution, essential for relationship sustainability.
  • Open-Minded Curiosity: Curiosity is an attractive trait. A curious partner desires to understand everything about you, fostering emotional intimacy through attentive listening and genuine care.
  • Compassionate Support: In life’s trials, a supportive partner serves as a pillar of strength, offering encouragement and unwavering support.

If you embody these traits, you’re likely marriage material. The beauty is, you needn’t excel in all areas; awareness and a willingness to grow your best traits make you an ideal partner. With free will, we all have the power to nurture our strengths and become someone’s ideal spouse!


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