First of all, let me emphasize that the purpose of a first date is to get to know each other and have fun, not to dump all of your personal baggage on your date. While it’s important to be open and honest with your date, there are certain topics that are better left for later in the relationship, when you’ve built more trust and rapport.
1. Your suffering at work
One topic to avoid on a first date is your job or career-related stress. While it’s natural to want to share what’s been on your mind lately, talking about how much you hate your boss or how much work you have to do may not be the best way to create a positive first impression. Instead, try to focus on your hobbies, interests, and passions outside of work.
2. Your past trauma
Similarly, it’s important to avoid discussing your past trauma or emotional baggage on a first date. While it’s important to be honest with your date about any major events or experiences that have shaped you, the first date is not the time or place to unload all of your deepest fears and insecurities. Instead, try to keep the conversation light and positive.
3. Your past relationships (in details)
Another topic to avoid on a first date is your past relationships. Talking about your exes or comparing your current date to your past partners can make your date feel uncomfortable or insecure. Instead, focus on getting to know your date as an individual, without any comparisons or baggage from your past.
4. Salaries or personal net worth
It’s also important to avoid discussing your salaries or personal net worth on a first date. Money can be a sensitive topic, and sharing too much information about your financial situation can come across as either boastful or insecure. Instead, focus on finding common interests and hobbies that you and your date can enjoy together.
5. Anger at friends, rivals, or family
Another topic to avoid on a first date is anger or negative feelings towards friends, family, or rivals. While it’s natural to experience these emotions from time to time, talking about them on a first date can create a negative or tense atmosphere. Instead, try to keep the conversation positive and focused on things that you and your date both enjoy.
6. Anything R21
Finally, it’s important to avoid any R21 topics on a first date. While this may seem obvious, it’s worth mentioning that discussing explicit or offensive topics can create a very uncomfortable situation for both you and your date. Instead, focus on getting to know your date as a person, and save any sensitive or potentially offensive topics for later in the relationship.
In summary, a first date is an opportunity to create a positive and fun first impression. By avoiding topics like work stress, past trauma, exes, salaries/net worth, anger, and R21 topics, you can help create a comfortable and enjoyable atmosphere that will help you and your date get to know each other better. So go out there, have fun, and be yourself!
